Stanley Siegel, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, author, international lecturer, and former Director of Education at New York’s renowned Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. With over 36 years of experience, Siegel has developed an unconventional and highly regarded approach to psychotherapy. Stanley's latest book, "Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life" is out now!
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Sex Worker or Therapist?

Sex Worker or Therapist?

STANLEY SIEGEL UNCENSORED: The Shared Values and Techniques of Therapists and Sex Workers. “Sex Worker or Therapist?” was censored by Psychology Today on February 21 and never appeared online. Several years ago, a 62-year-old man had a consultation with me a few months after good friends had conducted, let’s say, an intervention on his behalf. Andrew...
Penis Envy

Penis Envy

STANLEY SIEGEL UNCENSORED: The Truth About How We Feel About Penises. “Penis Envy” was published February 14 on PsychologyToday.com and removed two weeks later. The center of a man’s existence is his penis. At the root of his self-worth is how he feels about the size of his penis and what he thinks about its ability...
Beyond Sexual Orientation

Beyond Sexual Orientation

Gay, straight, it just doesn’t matter anymore. Heterosexuality is not what it’s cut out to be. The labels that exist to describe us typically fall short of encompassing the fullness of human sexuality. Some years ago a patient came to me to deal with his sexual identity issues. When I asked James to describe his...
What Your Favorite Porn Says About Who You Are

What Your Favorite Porn Says About Who You Are

Sex scenes on film can be the window to your psyche You are sitting in front of a computer screen surfing porn sites ready to get off. You sift through scenes and images until you connect to one. Suddenly, every element of desire falls perfectly in line. You become intensely excited, your physical and mental...
Curing Pornophobia

Curing Pornophobia

How Watching Pornography Can Change Your Life The great majority of us watch pornography. Nearly 87 percent of men and 76 percent of women reportedly visit adult entertainment sites. In fact, pornography drives the economy of the Internet and our appetite for it has led to Internet innovation. That sex sells is hardly a startling discovery....
The Modern Family

The Modern Family

New Family and Sex-Positive Values Today’s American family isn’t what it used to be. The days of “Leave It to Beaver” have been replaced with “Modern Family,” a more accurate representation of home life. The nuclear family, the blended family, and the family with same sex-parents are equally visible, loving, funny and messy. The notion...
My Father, the Ethical Slut

My Father, the Ethical Slut

A daughter responds to her father’s unconventional sex life My daughter, Alyssa, wrote this week’s column. I am mourning the unexpected death of a close friend, who was a member of my family of choice. In her column, my daughter responds to my recent argument in favor of casual sex which has gotten a lot...
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