Stanley Siegel, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, author, international lecturer, and former Director of Education at New York’s renowned Ackerman Institute for Family Therapy. With over 36 years of experience, Siegel has developed an unconventional and highly regarded approach to psychotherapy. Stanley's latest book, "Your Brain on Sex: How Smarter Sex Can Change Your Life" is out now!
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The Case Against Marriage

The Case Against Marriage

Marriage does more harm than good. With New York joining a list of states legalizing it, Republican candidates calling for the Constitution to ban it and a Supreme Court decision likely needed to resolve the confusion, it’s no wonder same-sex marriage is a hot topic. Why are we fighting for marriage when it doesn’t work...
Why I Advocate For Casual Sex

Why I Advocate For Casual Sex

Taking on the critics After getting dozens of comments, it is clear my last column, In Defense of Casual Sex, has struck a very deep chord. With seventy thousand readers and counting, sides have been drawn, some stones have been cast and heartfelt thoughts have certainly been shared about casual sex. I am more than glad. This enormous...
In Defense of Casual Sex

In Defense of Casual Sex

Sex without commitment can improve your life. In the new film “Shame,” an examination of the extremes of human sexuality,  Brandon Sullivan, a successful, handsome New York executive afraid of intimacy, has frequent, random sex with prostitutes and strangers. At work, he sneaks off to masturbate in the men’s room or extends his lunch hour with  trysts. The movie  harshly depicts casual...
The Soul of Therapy

The Soul of Therapy

Our Problems Are Our Solutions. As I continue to teach and lecture among my colleagues around the world, I have become increasingly aware that most psychotherapists train and practice within a paradigm that sees patients’ problems as rooted in pathology. These therapists wait and watch for a symptom to see how  it  might fit into a a category of...
A Dangerous Method: Can Sex Restore Mental Health?

A Dangerous Method: Can Sex Restore Mental Health?

Sexual Desire in Therapy The newly released film “A Dangerous Method” tells the story of the complex relationship between Sigmund Freud and his much younger heir-apparent, Carl Jung, both early founders of the modern field of psychology. Freud and Jung came to represent differing schools of psychoanalytic thinking, a separation not only hastened by intellectual...
Forbidden Desire: The Cost of Living Without Sex

Forbidden Desire: The Cost of Living Without Sex

Sexual denial never succeeds and sexual desire can never be buried. Why do some of us choose to live without sex? What is the emotional cost of sexual abstinence to parts of our lives? The secret life story of former FBI Director J. Edgar Hoover, a closeted gay man,  told in the new Clint Eastwood bio-pic, tragically...
When Too Much Sex Is Bad for You

When Too Much Sex Is Bad for You

  When is sex bad for you? Among mental health professionals, that question is hotly debated. Definitions of sexual pathology can range from sex that crosses legal lines to any form of sex involving humiliation or self-harm that leads to lowered self-esteem. And there’s just as much disagreement about what constitutes “compulsive” or “addictive” sex or even if such...
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